Have you ever moved into a new house to realize you are carrying more items than you actually need? So instead of getting rid of them you decide to keep all of it. This is similar in some of our lives. We often hold on to what should not be carried in life. We all carry bags in life that we obtain from our personal experiences. You should always leave your bags at the door when walking into a new situation. This will help you forget the past while embracing your future.
Emotional Baggage & Relationships
In life, you are promised to have both amazing and horrible experiences. You will engage in relationships throughout life. Some will be professional while others may be intimate. We often let our guards down and become entangled in bad relationships that can alter the course of our lives. This results in the lowering of our standards as well as self-respect. By doing this, we encounter moments of turmoil that can easily be confused with normal behavior. We often realize we are unhappy with the way we are being treated but somehow cannot gain the strength to leave.
Once we decide to stay in dysfunctional relationships we tend to pick up emotional tendencies. These tendencies can be classified as emotional baggage. Some of this baggage is only familiar with our current relationship. When we do not realize we are accumulating excess baggage, we store it because we are not dealing with it. Now it becomes a part of who we are. We become vulnerable, emotional, untrustworthy, and insecure to name a few. Usually, we end up escaping these types of relationships and finally meeting that person of our dreams.
Your Past Can Hinder Your Future
So engaging in a new relationship is like moving into a new house. We are so thrilled with finding something better that we have forgotten the bags we will be carrying. Our new companion is everything the last relationship was not. But somehow things are not where they could be because you have decided to bring bags of insecurity, jealousy, hurt, distrust, and low self-esteem with you. Our new relationship will eventually become tainted like the last if you do not decide to clean house quick.
Learn From Your Past
We must make a decision to learn from the past and challenge the future, rather than allow our past to dictate our future. I know you have been hurt in the past but we must heal from these scars so we can obtain the good things that life has to offer. It is one thing to be robbed by the enemy of your future. It is another to assist in this tragedy. Evaluate yourself and see if you need healing from past situations that could be hindering you from reaching your destiny.